Grandmotherly woman washing vegetables at the kitchen sink.
Grandmotherly woman washing vegetables at the kitchen sink.
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A week or so ago, I was in Arizona with my daughter-in-law and granddaughters visiting her mom and step-dad. Several times throughout the week the girls watched Coco, a delightful story about a young boy, Miguel, who journeys to the Land of the Dead to meet his idol, the famous musician, Ernesto de la Cruz.

One of the most powerful scenes is when Hector, who happens to be the boy’s deceased grandfather, explains to Miguel that once there is no one left to remember them in the Land of the Living, they are gone forever. …

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For years, I lived what I call a “divided life.” I was one way outside the home — confident career woman — and another inside — confused, worried, and scared. I doubted my very existence.

Over time, I’ve integrated most of me into one being. There’s still a little bit of doubt and unworthiness lurking in the shadows, but I’m aware of it when it seeps into my thought process and attempts to infect the choices I’m making. 98% of the time “What you see is what you get,” and my thinking is “If you don’t like it––tough.”

This is…

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I’ve come to practice acknowledging those people who have journeyed with us in life — whether for a moment or perhaps even much of our lives. The support and guidance we received from those people were acts of love — and I believe love sent to us from the Divine.

When I first wrote this piece, I’d been feeling very alone (thankfully that’s shifted). Prior to moving back to San Diego to be with my family, the COVID crisis emphasized the loneliness I was feeling, especially when night arrived or when I heard a character in a movie say, “He…

Not too long ago, I met my daughter-in-law Tiffany, and my granddaughters, Abigail and Naomi, at Torrey Pines beach. It was a nice break from my desk on a warm San Diego winter day.

After strolling through the trails and then down to the beach, we perched on a rock to have a snack and chat. Tiffany is rebuilding her feather hair extensions business, Gracefully Wild (@GracefullyWild_), and we were talking about marketing on Instagram. To have a store on the site, she must build her following, and it had been slow going.

Build It and They Will Come


A woman’s hand holding a prism.
A woman’s hand holding a prism.
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Recently, I had the opportunity to hear Resilience Trainer Rodney Flowers speak at the Evolutionary Business Council Retreat. Rodney had been a rising star football player, seemingly destined for a career in the sport. Then at fourteen, during a game, he was hit by another player, and his spinal cord was severed. Rodney is now in his thirties (my guess) and a motivational speaker. He is walking again — with crutches. But beyond that, what I found significant is that his mindset was absolutely profound. I was blown away by his wisdom. He said, “Within every challenge, there is opportunity.”

Man sitting on a mountain beneath starry sky.
Man sitting on a mountain beneath starry sky.
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Our minds are where our ego often raises concerns that might not be in our best interest. It keeps us focused on what others are doing, rather than on what we’re doing. It tells us that we must keep others happy in order to feel safe and loved. It’s the instigator of our actions where we give up the care and desires we have for ourselves in order to serve the often unhealthy demands of others.

Yet, our ego also has its rightful place in our being. If it didn’t God wouldn’t have created us with one.

The difference lies…

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For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been aware that I’ve swept a couple of things under the rug — one in hopes that it would just work itself out and another because I’ve been so busy delivering on a project that I haven’t addressed the fact that I’ve been doing work for a client that lies outside the bounds of our contract. The “noise” from these two circumstances is getting louder.

My mentor and friend, Jack Canfield, wrote the book, The Success Principles: How to Get to from Where You are to Where You Want to Be.”

Climbing wall with woman near the top.
Climbing wall with woman near the top.
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“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”

~ Mahatma Gandhi

I awoke this morning wondering what today’s writing practice would hold. I had a number of ideas and none of them felt quite right. So after meditation, I…

Dog sitting in the window of a white house.
Dog sitting in the window of a white house.
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Yesterday, the term radical acceptance came to me several times. I knew I needed to pay attention. The past few weeks have been fraught with an umbrella of anxiety and sadness. I know, like many others, I’m carrying the stress of the political unrest and global issues we’ve been living with for so long. I lost a friend last week. She passed in her sleep. I had it on my mind to reach out to her after things “settled down” from the holidays. And yesterday, as I was going about my responsibilities with clients and students, knowing that the inaugural…

On the last day of 2020, I know many of us were sighing relief, and then some of us were holding our breath in anticipation of what 2021 will bring. And yet, while I personally experienced increased stresses, much good came out of last year.

To name a few: I moved back to San Diego and am now in daily contact with my daughter and my grandsons, sharing their space by living in the Hinterhaus (a tiny back house). I offer my support during the time of my son-in-law’s deployment by sharing grocery shopping, meal prep, doing dishes, walking the…

Kathy Sparrow

An award-winning author, leadership and empowerment expert, and university professor, Kathy Sparrow is the CEO and Publisher of A Writable Life Publishing.

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